My friends think they can come up to me with any problems and I will solve their problems but they never seem to see the problems within me. All they see is I'm happy always and I don't need any support. But its not. I have my own problems and just because I don't vent it out doesn't mean I don't need any support. My parents, friends everybody think that way and there is none to even support me or stand with me. When people feel so sorry and considerate for other's lesser known pains and sufferings,nobody is ready to even acknowledge my grave problems that I have been going through.
Even now I say I can handle any situation. I can solve them on my own. What I want is people around me to acknowledge that I also have problems and they don't even do that. I have been listening other's problems, solving my own problems on my own and all of a sudden there is nobody to listen to me.
Off late I am getting too irritated when people come to me with their problems. Tell me what should I do now? Does being too strong making me weak? You can get started talking about your problems right here right now! What are your problems? Probably you just need to drop the pretense that you have no problems of your own, be more open and vulnerable with others. That doesn't mean you expect them to solve your problems for you, it just means you want the same listening and empathetic ear and encouragement for yourself that you provide for others.
It sounds as if you expect people to intuit or divine that you have needs too. You have to find a way to communicate your needs. If you have "grave problems" then in appropriate situations with appropriate persons, talk about them. When asked how you are, don't claim that you're terrific if you're not. That sort of thing. It doesn't sound to me like people aren't listening, there is nothing for them to hear. Don't expect them to read minds.
Sugah Ray. No, it doesn't make you weak, it just makes your life more difficult. Much more difficult I know because I have been there and done that. If people don't know what we need they can't provide it to us. There are people who will genuinely hear us if we express our needs in a nonjudgmental way saying directly what we need, not suggesting that if they cared they would listen, that's blackmail.
There will be others who won't because their own priorities are so high our needs are not that important to them at that moment. You will know who really is willing to meet your needs once you express them. Having lived by herself for many years, she is more than capable of putting her own pictures up.
And yet, when some DIY needs doing, she calls on her husband to do it. He likes it when I coo over him being manly. There is a time to be strong and masculine and there is a time to be feminine.
This is not meant to be a threat. The fact is, you asking for a bit of help, or letting him take some of the strain, could do you both a lot of good. Imagine it the other way around — imagine if your husband never needed you, or asked you for anything. But would it? Would it really? How would it feel if your husband, your children, your family and friends had absolutely no need for you in their lives. What would you do to make that feeling go away?
Being feminine is not just about wearing lipstick, but about engaging your feminine side. Spend time playing with your children, nurturing friends and family, cooking or decorating your home.
You can still be an alpha female and do all of these things. It may feel strange, but you just have to make a conscious decision to do it. Nobody gravitates toward someone who is always right and who never makes a mistake. Helen from LifeWorks agrees. We have so many negative emotions — grief, fear, loss, rejection — and we often push them underground and plough on, keeping ourselves busy with work, sport and socialising until an issue pops up as illness, addiction, rage or depression.
It stops you and forces you to really feel that emotion. A bit of microscopic truth never did anyone any harm. Counsellor Helen Williams gives us a crash course in how to be a woman and let your man be a man.
You can manage them any time by clicking on the notification icon. This section is about Living in UAE and essential information you cannot live without. By clicking below to sign up, you're agreeing to our Terms of Use and Privacy Policy. Friday, November 12, All Sections. Being feminine is not just about wearing lipstick, but about engaging your feminine side, Dr.
Afridi says. Image Credit: Getty Images Once upon a time, men did the hunting and protecting, and made their wives cups of tea in the morning, and women did the cooking, the caring and the child rearing. Stop taking on so much. Become more self-focused — think about what you need and want, rather than just thinking about what your husband and children need and want.
Learn how to spell it out for him. So when you do come to problems like mine give pre-exhaustion a go or you could use it on any exercise by performing a isolation exercise. T his sounds like a dumb question but it really isn't. For bodybuilding purposes, you can actually be too strong. For some people, this may sound like an article written on pure ego, but it is a problem I am faced with each week. Let my tell you my story Bad Knees. I have and have always had very strong legs.
I have very large bones which I think may have contributed to this, but my quads are strong. But my legs also have a weakness - my knees. As a result of a basketball training session when I was about 11 years old, in one of my knees I tore the tendons and had my knee cap and the bone behind it rubbing together. As a result, I can't squat heavy. I can squat, but not at the weight or intensity I desire. You may be thinking, hey cut your losses and use the leg press for those grueling heavy sets.
Well, that is where the issue of strength comes in. Rugby Tryouts.
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